aintnoholliday's Journal

Going to a Party?

Swingers parties are great ways to make new friends and spend an evening having sexy fun. Parties are wonderful for first timers, unlike a straight meeting where you have the ackwardness of nerves etc, parties allow you to minge with the other guests and meet people who you might like to swing with. Remember that you don't have to swing at a party. The first party we went to was after our first straight meeting (which wasn't problem free), but the party was great. We made some new friends and had some fun.

So if you're thinking of going to a swingers party, the next thing to decide is what sort of a party do you want to go to. Some parties are for couples only, some are mixed, some are like orgies, some have playrooms for fun, some just use the whole house. Do you want to go to a large party or a smaller gathering?

What ever you decide, make sure you get all the facts before you set out. Most swingers are guests at parties, few actually hold their own (which I think is a shame), and those who do are good at it. Here are a few tips if you are a guest at party. hopefully, they'll make your first timer flow easier.

If you live far away from the party, make sure you arrange for somewhere to stay and make sure you have time to arrange on time. Many parties have a closed door policy, if you're not in on time, you don't get in. Remember the party hosts don't want their neighbours seeing naked people nipping up the stairs, so arrange on time, so the fun can start. Ask about drinks, condoms and parking and whether its just for couples or is it mixed?

Answer invitations, whether you can make it or not, its polite. This gives the host / hostess an idea of how many people to expect. When you reply, ask if there is anything you need to take, and any other questions you may have. Also let them know its your first party, the hosts should spend a little time showing you round and introducing you to the regulars.

If for some reason you can't go at the last minute, ring to let the host / hostess know that you can't go. They may be waiting on you to arrive, think how you would feel.

Bring a gift for your host / hostess (a bottle of wine is a good idea). Arrive discretely, cover your sexy clothes with a long coat, until you get in doors, remember people have neighbours. Once inside always follow the house rules.

Go steady on the alcohol, a few drinks is fine, but getting drunk isn't ! Its easy to knock back a couple of drinks for dutch courage, but keep an eye on your drink levels. A lot of swingers swap between alcoholic and soft drinks, you can't swing with brewers droop.

Offer to help with the food and drinks if the host / hostess is rush around. If they don't enjoy themselves, then they might not run another party for you to. Its easy to think that you're just a guest, but no one enjoys being a skivy for everyone else. Offer to help tidy up after the party, (Its hard enough after a normal party) Big Task!

When it comes time to go, say your goodbyes inside, the last thing you want is the neighbours listening to you organise the next meet whilst you're trying to get in your car. When you get home, ring or e-mail a thank you message to the hosts, saying what a great time you had. This will makes them feel appreciated and it will get you remembered for the next party.

Above all, take things as they come, be yourself, enjoy yourself, remember to ask before you touch and no means no! If you have anything to add or ask, use the form below.

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